Yes it's my house, and I intend to have guests in it. Since they can leave at will, I must value each very much and make sure we can come to agreements wherever possible so that all of our wishes can be met fairly.
Question 2: Why does TL still use its 10 commandments and your guidelines to tell new posters how TL works? Neither are particularly true or accurate, or helpful to avoid being banned or having your thread/blog closed/edited/moved etc. You don't keep them up to date, and you don't explain bans or closings in terms of these rules. No moderator thinks about these rules when they post, let alone when they moderate. Don't your users deserve to have the most accurate description of the moderation as possible, as mensrea initially intended with her 10 commandments?